Movin' On Up!

In just 3 days I will be the proud NEW OWNER of my own place. I am so excited, nervous, giddy and ready. I am so ready to move into my new place. A place that I own. Again. This will be my second home purchase but because it has been more than 3 years since I last owned, I am considered a new homeowner by lending standards. Ever since I moved from my first home, everywhere I lived I never felt "at home". I hope that all changes....

I know this sounds silly but I cannot wait to have regular game nights, craft nights and just have people over! I have decided that I will have my Marilyn Monroe bathroom. It is going to be an exciting project that I am ready to start!

I am sure I will post pictures, so keep your eyes peeled!

~ Lucy

The not so fun part of dating

So my least favorite part of the dating life is that I don't know where to meet "that really great guy". I have never, and will never, just go pick up a guy at a bar. I am just not that kind of lady. So with that said, where else do I go? I know some people are thinking duh...the library, sporting event, a museum, in college, through friends, on an airplane/vacation, just by walking around (lol), at the grocery store(I never believed this one) OR online???

Well I have opted for online dating. I figured, what are my better options and people are always online these days. It can't be that weird! Well..... it is! However, after years of feeling that way, I cracked and gave into online dating, several years ago.

On a side note, I have only met 3 men off online dating... and obviously it did not pan out. However, I could have met over 1,000 by now if I wanted to or even if I replied to each email I received. FYI: There really is a "whole sea of Internet love seekers" out there.

Back to my online dating story (I laugh as I type that), I have been online for years and I find that if you have high standards to start with you tend to be picky. Hence, the meeting of only 3 guys. I figure if I read a response from someone and I think it is odd or creepy, I simply move on. If you have horrible grammar then again, I move on. I have decided that I am NOT going to settle NO MATTER WHAT!

So, as it presently stands, there are currently only 2 guys that I am interested in sending the few "get to know you before we meet up emails" and maybe one of them will work out or at least get past date #3. lol.

So in conclusion, dating online is weird. In this order: you find a profile, check out their picture, scan their general info, re-read it if you find the basic information to be of interest and reply if you like what you see & read. After that you either have received their email of interest or you are sending one of your own. Once you send a few emails back and fourth, you wait for the guy to ask you out and then you meet them. Yes, I said you wait for the guy to ask you because one of the main things I have learned during my Internet dating experiences is that the "thrill of the chase" is really important. As a woman, you cannot be too available. If you are, the guy will end his chase and then no longer want you. If you proceed as being nonchalant he will find you very interesting (because you are) and thus be interested in you... so the lesson for the day: the thrill of the chase is important (at least in the beginning). The second lesson of the day is that online dating is WEIRD, and yet I bet some of you already knew that. . .

~ Lucy

Let's Begin...

I am new to blogging but I don't know why. I have so much to say about so many topics. I like to learn something new each day and pass on what I've learned to other's. I guess you can say I have finally found my virtual outlet in blogging.

Now, if I could only meet Mister Right!

I am edging closer and closer to the BIG 3-0! I have not yet come to terms with this turning of age but I think I know why. I used to always think by 30 years old, I will have been happily married with at least 2 kids. )I already know that I would like to have at least 4 kids) ... As of now, I have never been married and I have no children. As a little girl, I always had the vision of marrying my high school sweetheart and having children together in our perfect life, with white picket fences - of course!

I have come to terms with my single-hood and I have recently decided that it is OK that I have not yet had children. I have realized that there have been so many events in my life that I would have missed if I were married with kids. I do know that I still have plenty of life left.

Life is so unpredictable and I guess I kind of like it that way...

The Honest Truth will set you free

I have always dreamed of changing the world....somehow....someway. As I get older, I have realized a few things about this thought. First of all, it is not as easy as it sounds. Secondly, it takes a LOT of hard work to make big changes. I do believe that anything is possible in this unpredictable world. So I am here to help other's battle through their problems, questions or ideas.

My point of view, comes from a (very) honest, yet caring place. I am the kind of friend who tells you the honest truth in order to support you. I won't just shake my head and agree with your bad decisions. I am the same friend who will stand there and say "I told you so" because chance are I did tell you. If problems were easy to solve, then no one would have any problems. Right? So now, I am turning my advice to the Internet for everyone to read.

If you have a question about love, life, money, friends, family or relationships just ask! The truth might just set you free....

~ Lucy